Utilize Self Care and Improve Your Riding
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Coaching Dec. 11, 2023
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Utilize this as an exercise when you have time, with your
journal:
Aspects of ourselves
Character Traits (same as values) these are relating to space
and time. Honesty, love, compassion, organization, patience, respect.) Again
these are things about ourselves that we want to nurture. We may have to look
past what other people have made us think about ourselves.
Personality Traits (help
us to be who we are) these just are, there is nothing to measure. Confident,
humorous, imaginative, loving, direct.
Part of self love is
getting to know these things about ourselves and make peace with them. Without
comparing ourselves to others why are these characteristics special? What do we
look like when we are acting on them in a positive way? What might it look like
when we ignore or don’t like parts of ourselves.
With the horses it is easy to get
overwhelmed sometimes with the competitive aspect and then think that our own
self worth and characteristics are not worth anything. We try to conform to the
way other people want us to be, or what we see other people doing from a
distance.
Yes! There are certain practices
that will help to bring you success!
Such as being
disciplined, choosing good healthy food over junk food, working out,
stretching, having lessons to improve your riding etc etc.
There are other
things that create your special you that do not need to change or conform to
the wishes of society or friends. These things are what make you you. And by
trying to bury them, hide them or change them you are going against your true
nature and living out of balance.
It takes time of self-reflection
to start to find these traits and characteristics that are truly what you are
about. Then it also takes time to cultivate or get to know your true identity.
From then you want to grow the positive aspects of yourself and be brave to
take them out into the world.
How to help myself travel
on the right path and have success?
Take care of yourself and
give yourself some love!
Be careful not to
just ask it from other people. You must not ask someone to love you more than
you love yourself. And…. If they do not show you love, enough love or the right
kind of love, this must not reflect how much you love yourself.
We are all a work in
progress. So! loving yourself and accepting yourself where you are right now
does not mean that you might not want to improve certain aspects of your being.
However, if you only focus on the negative remember, you will only continue to
get more negative.
For example someone might say; I
love that I am funny, energetic and have a love for horses. I would like to
improve my discipline so that my love for horses turns into a successful show
career.
But what if they said; I am not
disciplined but I am funny and energetic. Can you see where this is going. One
sentence is uplifting and gives something to work toward the other is going nowhere.
When under pressure you will find
that positive attributes will help you persevere, whereas negative thoughts and
beliefs about ourselves will be self-fulfilling.
“If you think
you can, you can. If you think you can’t, you are also right.”
Be the
guardian of your mind. The way that business works in America is that they make
you feel like you have or identify with a short coming or a problem and then
they offer you the product that will solve it. These short comings are put into
your presence daily on the computer, TV, radio, bill boards and magazines and
then the advertisements sell you the product that will fix your flaws.
If you
can hold your positive self-vision in your mind and heart all of the time these
ads will not infect you. In my email I get a million hits with subjects like “lose
weight fast”, “look younger now” or “improve your relationship”. When I see the
titles, I might say to myself I don’t need to lose weight! or my relationship
is just fine thank you! I actually have the conversation and put it out there
so that it does not infect me.
When you
come from this place of self-acceptance and love you can actively look for
things that will improve your life and what you want to do, but you do not
allow other peoples fears or judgements to infect you.
Taking care of yourself daily
will reinforce to your mind, heart and spirit that you really are good enough.
This confidence will spill into your riding, work, and relationships.
What ways can we take better
care of ourselves?
Spend
alone time, meditating and learning (or just figuring out what is interesting
and we might want to learn.)
Respect
yourself with your self-talk. Allow yourself to grow do not judge mistakes
Eat right
and stay hydrated
Exercise
Important thing to
remember!!
You were not born knowing
everything! So! it is ok to ask questions, make mistakes and look for ways to
learn. You do not have to be the knower! As you do this you will find that you
can give a hand up to those that have less experience than you, but you can
also look up to those that have more experience.
Homework:
Take a
couple of days and listen to your self-talk. Write down some things you hear
regularly, good and bad.
Also,
listen to some ads, look in magazines or TV and Facebook and write down a
couple of these products that use this tactic of making you feel like you are
lacking something or need to fix something to sell their product.
Share with me at
nancy@carouselcoaching.com
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